Look, there comes a time in most of our lives when something inside of us says: 

    “I’m not where I want to be.”

    “I never thought this is what I’d be experiencing at this stage of my life.”

    “This doesn’t feel right.”

    “There has to be more than this.”

Underlying all of it is the core feeling:  “I AM NOT HAPPY.”

To which I say: GOOD! I’m glad you’re not feeling happy now.  It’s wonderful that you’re sensing something is amiss.  I’ll go so far as to say that I’m THRILLED that you know that what you’re experiencing is not what you’re meant to have!  

These feelings are showing you that you are in touch with your internal guidance system , which is very loudly alerting you that you are off course and you need to get back on it.  From this place, you’re not only connected to the divine power in you, but you are in control of your power, and here is where you can create where it is you want to go and how it is you’re going to get there! 

The first step is awareness.  You sense that you are not where you want to be (and I’ve already covered how I think this is fabulous!).  Let’s get specific:

  • WHAT exactly is not working for you?  Is it your job, relationship, body image, self esteem, spirituality, etc.  What is triggering these feelings of being off course?
  • WHO are you when you continue to allow yourself to be where it is you know you’re not meant to be?  Are you angry, depressed , bored, tyrannical, over compensating, inauthentic?  How do you show up in your life?
  • HOW do others currently respond to you? Do you find throngs of friends lining up to listen to you kvetch about the sad state of your life or (more likely) do you find your dance card emptier lately?  Chances are, when you’re not happy, others around you aren’t either.  Eventually, someone decides to leave and pursue brighter days…with or without the other in tow.

With this level of clarity outlined, those who are committed to reshaping their lives are usually excited into action.  They begin to identify what it is they DO want, who they want to be, why it’s important and what they’re willing to give in order to make it happen! They visualize themselves in stages of achievement! They sense it, feel it, smell it, see it, KNOW IT!!! They start small, with just ONE step that helps brings them closer to feeling good.  And they celebrate EVERY SINGLE SUCCESS along the way. 

For those who aren’t inspired into action though, that’s ok too! It just means that there’s more for you to still experience and learn from! As hard a pill as it is to swallow, these feelings of being off course are exactly what it is you’re meant to go through in order to bring you to your next level.  You’re just not ready for it right now!  Accept this as truth and allow yourself some room to breath and be.  Trust in the flow of life and know that everything happens for your highest good, even if you can’t see how right now.

Regardless of which stage of action you’re in, know that they’re BOTH perfect! Let’s affirm as Louise Hay brilliantly taught us to: 

“I’m ok! All is well! Out of this moment, only good will come.  Everything is working out for my highest good.  I am safe and all is well.” 

And so it is!

Positively and energetically yours,                      

Thomas Dunleavy, CPC

www.declarecoaching.com